1. Review the Parent Pledge, Your Student's Name(s) and Contact Info. If you signed the Pledge in prior years, you need NOT do so again - but please keep it current. All parents should review the Pledge and check their student(s) names and contact information for accuracy.
Please email any corrections promptly to firstname.lastname@example.org.
- New Students. Be sure to provide the name and grade of any student you have who is new to Redwood this year and indicate if any students listed are no longer at Redwood.
- Parent Info for All Parents/Guardians. If possible, please provide BOTH parent/step-parent/guardian names, email addresses and cell phone numbers. It is important (and often a challenge) for both parents to "be on the same page", whether you are married and living together or separated/divorced and your teen spends time in different homes. Your teen will benefit most if all adults who live in your teen's home are a part of this program.
- Non-RHS Students. The Parent List includes families in our community whose teens attend private high schools. Please add the names of any of your teens at these other schools - they often attend the same parties :)
2. Use the BTI Parent List Regularly to Connect with Other Parents.
- Get to Know your Teen’s Friends and their Parents. The List will facilitate contact with other parents and we encourage you to communicate and create connections within our community. It truly takes a village!
3. Get Plugged into What’s Going On in the Marin Teen Party Scene and Stay Educated on the Effects of Alcohol and other Drugs on Teens.
- Attend Parent and/or Student Education Forums. Learn the latest facts on alcohol and other drugs and prioritize attending events sponsored by the PTSA, our new Wellness Center, the Twin Cities Coalition for Healthy Youth (funded by a Marin County grant to reduce underage binge drinking, alcohol, marijuana and other drug use) and other community groups and schools. BTI Parents will stay informed as to special events around the community.
- Open Periodic BTI Email Updates. Throughout the year, BTI Parents will also receive information on resources, the latest research and trends, as well as notice of parties and other events on teen calendars.
- Recommended Read. Chapter 13 of Laura Kastner's "Getting to Calm" (entitled "When You Catch Your Teen Drinking or Smoking") offers excellent preventative and "in the moment" advice beyond the "just say no" and "you're grounded!" approach. Pages 233-243 feature different scenarios and strategies, depending on your teen's age, as well as practical tips how to parent effectively and as a team.
- Additional Resources are on www.TheCoalitionConnection.com (excellent revamped website of the Twin Cities Coalition for Healthy Youth which contains a wealth of current information) and the Be the Influence webpage (go to the Redwood website and click on PTSA and Be the Influence) which includes a Sample Family Agreement and our Top Ten Tips for Teen Parents.
4. "Follow" Facebook Pages of Redwood Parents and Twin Cities Coalition for Healthy Youth. To really stay current on happenings at Redwood and elsewhere in our community on these and other issues, add these pages to your FB newsfeed:
- Redwood High School Parent Forum at www.facebook.com/redwood.parents. New this year is an unofficial FB page started by Redwood parents (and unaffiliated with the Tam HS District, Redwood HS Administration or Redwood PTSA.) The Redwood HS Parent Forum is currently open only to BTI parents who make a "friend request" to the group. It is a forum for parents to share information on topics ranging from academics to extracurricular activities to social issues.
- The Coalition Connection at www.facebook.com/thecoalitionconnection. This FB feed from the Twin Cities Coalition for Healthy Youth is linked with other community coalitions in Marin and is an excellent up-to-date resource to stay informed.
5. Campus Safety Anonymous Tip Line. Parents and students may call (415) 945-3693 and leave an anonymous message with any information relating to the health and safety of Redwood students, including alcohol and other drug use and/or dealing from the time students leave for school until they arrive back home.
6. Additional Parenting Tips for the Summer Months and the Start of the School Year:
- Redwood Back to School Dance. This is widely attended and typically held on campus the first Friday night that school starts. It is a spirited and fun event but there have been issues in the past with students in attendance under the influence of alcohol and other drugs. Review the Letter from Principal (usually emailed the week of) regarding school policies and discuss with your teen. Make clear your own rules and expectations that your teen will be sober and discuss consequences in advance. Know how your teen is getting to and from the dance, expect them home soon after (be aware of local 11 pm curfew laws, especially for new drivers) and be wary of last minute sleepover requests. Don’t hesitate to connect with any parents whose house your teen is going to before or after the dance.
- Parties with Older Teens. Parents of younger teens (especially freshman) should say "no" or otherwise discourage their teens from attending large parties with teens from other more senior grades. Chapter 13 of Getting to Calm contains excellent guidance on this issue.
- Nights Away/Vacations: If you are leaving your house unattended for the evening or leaving town overnight, take precautions to ensure your house won’t become The Party Spot. Social Host Ordinance laws throughout Marin hold parents strictly and financially accountable. For a night away, contact your local police for a drive-by “vacation check”. It will help protect you against liability as well as keep your house and any teens left behind safer. Advise your teen to never hesitate to contact police for help.
- Reduce easy access to alcohol, marijuana and prescription drugs. "Teen proof" your home by securing or keeping track of any alcohol and other drugs. Periodically check for hidden alcohol, marijuana and other drugs or paraphernalia as well as “fake id’s” which can be found in bedrooms, cars and wallets. "Just because you think your teen likely will experiment with or use alcohol or other drugs doesn't mean you make it easy for them to do so".
- Have regular discussions about these topics with your teen. Be present, ask open ended questions and listen to what they say. Be mindful of the language you use so that the positive remarks about your teen greatly outnumber the negative comments ("catch them being good").
- Model responsibility and moderation in your own behavior. This may be the most important tip of all. Consider limiting your alcohol intake when around your teens (and younger kids) to a glass or two with a meal. When hosting or attending a child-related event, consider keeping it alcohol free. "If its about the kid, its not about the drink." Never drive while under the influence. Remember that while your teens may pretend not to hear you - they are listening and are watching what you do.
We wish you a healthy, happy, safe and successful school year!
- The Redwood PTSA Be the Influence Committee